Do You Want To Learn With Social Anxiety Antidote
We help people who suffer from social anxiety, to overcome loneliness and their fear of communicating with others, by showing them how to communicate better in their interpersonal and professional relationships, to have the social life and the career they want.
Meet Your Coach
It all started when I was very young, I have always been very shy and reserved. I’ve often been told: Why don’t you talk? Say something! It’s okay if you have anything to say; Say whatever comes to your mind! I do not hear anything! Speak louder! It did not improve with time.
When I was a little girl, I didn’t like attention so I talked as little as possible. I thought I was smart, that it would draw attention away from me, but it had the opposite effect. It got me more attention than I could handle. I could hear people talking behind my back. ”What’s wrong with her, why isn’t she talking?” “I went to talk to her, she barely answered my questions, she’s so rude.”
Because of my social anxiety, I thought that I would never go far in life. Social anxiety was holding me back from experiencing so in my life but I was used to it. Until it became a problem at work. I decided I needed to change. I made the first step, I joined a Toastmasters club. I remember it like it was yesterday. I absolutely hated it. It was pure torture. Until then, I have always tried to avoid social situations, because of my social anxiety.
It was not easy at first but I found a way to thrive in this new environment and manage my anxiety.
I persevered, even though I would have preferred to be at home in my pajamas watching Netflix. I went to every meeting, I took roles every time. After a month, I did my ice-breaker. Here I was in front of 30 people who expected me to talk about myself. I hated it. It took me 4 months to do my next speech. After that, I started doing one speech a month.
When I look back at everything that I accomplished in the last years, I barely can believe it. I did more than 70 speeches. I was able to connect with others by sharing my story, by being vulnerable. I made some awesome like-minded friends. I realize that I was not alone. What I learned from one of my colleagues in Toastmasters was to accept myself as I am, not try to fit in. It’s ok to be weird. But I am not weird, that’s his thing, personally I’m awesome!
I am so grateful for the people who believed in me when I could not believe in myself. The kindness and support of the people I met in Toastmasters helped me realize that I could be more than the girl who did not talk enough in meetings. It helped reveal the leader in me.
That is what inspired me to start my own business to help other women like me. If I can do it then anyone can do it!