Apr 4 / Katy Morin

5 Lies We Tell Ourselves About Worrying

The best possible scenario is a life jam-packed with happiness, smiling, laughing, and love, right? Despite searching for that, for sure you'll also experience some negative emotions because they exist and are unstoppable. Worry is one negative feeling that people frequently encounter, and that's because the future is impossible to predict.
But, believe it or not, some people fall into the trap of accepting worry as a beneficial thing. So, we're here to expose the superstitions and help to reduce your worrying.
1) Worrying shows I care
Arguably, this could genuinely be true. For instance, worrying when your child ventures off on their own could cause worry. But, if you flip that around, people say they worry non-stop because if they don't, it means they don't care. You see, worrying needlessly on a frequent basis over nothing does not fall into the bracket of caring, it's just a hindrance.
2) Worrying will prevent any bad surprises
Trying to rack your brain to determine every possible thing that could go wrong in every single situation will exhaust you. Plus, it won't help, because you'll never be able to predict what's going to happen. So, instead of worrying to avoid bad surprises, become a more positive person so you can handle bad experiences if they ever do arise.
3) Worrying keeps me safe
So many people tell themselves they worry to keep themselves safe, because if they don't worry it opens up the door for bad things to happen. For example, you may feel that if you don't consistently worry about your partner's whereabouts, they'll instantly be unfaithful. But, by doing that, you'll cause friction, when you could be focusing on being happy together.
4) Worrying helps me problem-solve
There's a common assumption that regularly overthinking and worrying about something will help you discover a solution. But, in fact, the majority of the time there's no problem even to solve. If there is, endlessly worrying will only cloud your judgment and prevent you from finding a reliable solution.
5) Worrying is a source of motivation
Bizarrely, some people believe that worrying empowers them to be proactive and avoid problems before they occur. Subsequently, they think that will prevent complacency and push them to become better. But, worrying is a negative emotion that doesn't allow you to think clearly. It would be much better to find motivation from other sources that didn't interfere with your thinking.
If you want more tips to deal with worry, download my free guide Embrace Uncertainty. This report includes powerful tips related to embracing uncertainty. It also includes 3 actionable steps you can take right away and a list of suggested reading for those people who are looking for even more information.
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