As much as we’d like to show that we don’t care about what others think about us, we do. Some people are so pre-occupied with it, they seldom take part in things they like. Whether it’s the feeling of embarrassment, or the fear of being laughed at, caring too much only holds us back from what we want.
Here are a few signs to know if you worry too much about what others think of you.
1. You want everyone to like you
In an attempt to ensure everyone likes you, you do and say things that aren’t you. You aren’t living your authentic life, which leaves you feeling miserable and alone. When you are continuously doing or saying what others want, you are cheating yourself from what you want. It’s impossible to please everyone all of the time.
2. You can’t say no
Whenever someone asks for your favor, you automatically feel obliged to help them. Even when that might affect your job or another aspect of your life. You have a hard time saying no because you don’t want to let them down. If they feel disappointed, you worry they will stop liking you.
3. You are worried about what you say
You constantly think about what you are saying and your manner of speaking. You are your worse critic, and you constantly self-censor yourself. Taking the safe route every time will make you seem like the quiet, shy type. You are sure to miss out on opportunities to share your opinions/ideas and form new relationships.
4. You are over-analyzing yourself
You are constantly trying to observe each and everyone to check if anyone has noticed you falling short of expectations. More importantly, you are trying to look at yourself from someone else’s angle. The constant worrying and thinking will never let you be satisfied with the way you are and the way you do things.
5. You don’t take feedback well
Even though, deep down you know that feedback is good for you and will actually help you excel, you just can’t deal with it. Constructive criticism gets you down, which leads to you telling yourself that you are not good enough.
6. You don’t ask for help
Even when you are taking yourself out of your comfort zone to prove useful to others, you feel hesitant to ask for anyone’s help. You worry that you will be judged for not being competent or capable enough to handle things on your own.
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