Katy Morin

Top 6 Reasons You Need to Put Yourself First

Social anxiety is just one of the many things that can prevent us from living a fulfilling life. One of the most important struggles to overcome is getting off our own social pedestals and putting ourselves first. This article will go through five of the top reasons why you need to put yourself first when you have social anxiety.

Number 1: You will achieve better success if you put your own goals first.
Too many times, people with social anxiety choose to put other people’s needs before their own. They let other people dictate how they should live their life and the roles they play in it. Most of the time, those in our social circle will not even be aware of the discomfort we feel. It is very likely that they have no idea how significantly it affects us and causes us to mess up our own lives; they simply won’t understand what it’s like to be nervous when initiating conversations or having them initiated on you.

When you are putting others first, it causes you to act in ways that aren’t healthy for you. You will fail at both work and relationships, as well as experience emotional turmoil from being around your friends.

Number 2: When you are putting yourself first, it gives you the opportunity to put yourself above everyone else.

It can be easy to feel down sometimes when all your friends have what seems like such great lives and are so successful on the outside; yet on the inside, we struggle with our own insecurities and struggles. When we do this, we hold ourselves back from accomplishing our true potential and accomplishing realistic goals for ourselves.

We let other people around us define our self-worth on a daily basis because we are afraid to stand up for ourselves and give ourselves what we know is deserved. This lack of self-confidence in turn causes us to put less effort into the things that matter most in life, including our careers and relationships.

Number 3: Putting yourself first will make you healthier overall.
When you are putting yourself last or not at all, it makes it difficult to live a healthy life. Whether you realize it now or not, putting others ahead of yourself can oftentimes lead to exhaustion and overall stress. This can eventually cause you to become sick and stressed out.

When you are putting yourself first, it allows you to focus on your health and well-being. You will make sure you are eating healthy and working out, plus you are more likely to get the proper amount of sleep per night. When we fail to put ourselves first, we end up neglecting our physical health in order to make time for others. Soon enough we will realize that following our own dreams is extremely important because when we don’t, we won’t feel fulfilled in the long run regardless of how successful anyone else thinks we are.

Number 4: Putting yourself first will lead you towards self-worth and happiness.

When you are putting yourself first, you are not letting other people define your self-worth and happiness for you. You are living for yourself and doing whatever it takes to make yourself happy, as well as finding out what it takes to fulfill your potential. This will lead you towards self-worth and true happiness because you know that in the end, it all comes full circle; the more time and effort you put into achieving a goal, the more fulfilling the reward. When you put yourself second, you spend all your energy trying to please others and not being able to take care of yourself. In that case, no matter how much money you make or how much success you have, in the end there is always something missing; your own personal goals and desires will not be fulfilled.

Number 5: Putting yourself first will aid in stopping your anxiety and empowering yourself.

This is the number one reason why having social anxiety should immediately make you put yourself first. When we are putting ourselves first, we are doing what is best for us as a person. This includes setting realistic and achievable goals for ourselves. When we are living for others, it is often incredibly difficult to achieve any sort of significant positive change that will aid in our journey towards overcoming our social anxiety and self-esteem issues.

It can also be an extremely empowering feeling to know that you are doing what’s best for yourself, even if it means you have to deal with some emotional pain at times. It is when you put yourself first that you take control over your life and exactly where it’s headed and what real progress looks like. You do not have to let the world around you define your worth or happiness; instead of living under the control of other people’s standards, expectations, and choices, live by your own principles and make decisions that allow you to feel fulfilled.

Number 6: When you put yourself first, people around you will respect it.

When we fail to put ourselves first in social situations or in our everyday lives. We let others tell us how to live our lives and what we should be doing. This causes us to lose our self-worth and consequently their respect for us.

When you are putting yourself first, you are standing up for yourself and doing things the way you want to; this will in turn make people around you respect you more. You not only look like a confident person, but it will be clear that you are confident in your own decisions; people will see your actions as personal choices instead of someone else telling you what to do.

Why I Recommend This
Putting your own life and dreams first is something that will change the world around you. It doesn’t matter who said it first; it’s still true. The more we put our own lives before the lives of others, the more successful we will be in life. We will be happy and content with our lives because we did everything possible to make ourselves happy. We made sure to reach our full potential and live the best life that we possibly could have lived.

You Will Benefit From It Too
This is not just for people with social anxiety; this applies to anyone who puts themselves last.

There are many reasons why we need to put ourselves first. It can be hard to stand up for ourselves and make decisions for ourselves, but it will be worth it in the end. Those who have managed to put themselves first have experienced a happier life overall, and have also been more successful in their everyday lives, as well as career goals.

When you put yourself first and try to live your life how you want to instead of how others may want you to live it, humans will all benefit from it.

The more people who put themselves first, the sooner this world will be a better place. Those who don’t put themselves first will see their lives continue to fall apart; their self-esteem and self-worth will decrease just because they are letting others control them instead of themselves.

How Can You Put Yourself First?
If you have a hard time putting yourself first, it is going to take some work. Start small and do one or two things for yourself each day, once that starts becoming more natural then you can start finding a way to do more on your own. It may seem awkward at times, but it’s worth it in the end. If you are going to put yourself first then make sure you actually follow through with it.

Take care of your mental health first and foremost, besides taking care of your physical health. When you feel good about yourself it becomes easier to live for yourself and make the right choices.
You want to start making decisions for yourself and doing what’s best for you instead of being someone else’s puppet. You don’t need a magic potion that will change how you think; simply practice making decisions for yourself each day. Obviously, this is not easy at first but it will get easier as time goes on until it becomes second nature.

Once you feel like you are making good decisions for yourself from the start, start becoming more assertive. Once you feel comfortable in situations, start being a bit more assertive by asking for what you need. This is called social assertiveness.

How to Be More Assertive
Once you start to make better decisions for yourself and are taking care of your own personal needs, a high level of social assertiveness will become much easier because it will be second nature. While someone might not be taking good care of themselves or believe they deserve good things in life; it doesn’t mean that you should give up on them or lower your expectations of them.

It is important to be assertive and set boundaries for yourself. It will help you be better at setting boundaries with others too. The more we show ourselves that we are worthy of getting what we want and need, the happier and more confident we will become.
There are a few ways to become more assertive and it all starts with your thoughts. Start thinking of yourself as someone who is worthy of all the best things in life. Start believing in yourself and having confidence in yourself because you deserve it. The more you think of yourself this way, the easier it will be to become more assertive and ask for what you need.

Once you are thinking of yourself as someone who can and will get what they want, it’s time to start talking about your needs.

People will be able to help you better if they know how something can help you. When you are getting others involved in helping with your needs, it is important to also remember that we all have our own minds and capabilities; if someone doesn’t want to help then that’s their choice, but don’t make them feel bad for not wanting to.

It’s important, to be honest with others and let them know what you need. If people cannot give you what you need, then it’s time to find someone else who can help you. There is no need to feel guilty for needing help. If they are unable to help then someone else will be able to but do make an effort to try and get what you need from them first.

When asking for something from another person, it’s important that your request is respectful and doesn’t come across as demanding or an expectation of them. If it’s something that you need from them and they don’t want to help, then say thank you for their time. Don’t make your request an expectation or demand of them, as in a way this is putting them last. Demanding something from others will not give you the response that you want because most people will not be comfortable doing what you are asking for.

Most people are going to be more willing to help someone who is assertive about their needs. This doesn’t mean being pushy; it simply means letting others know what you need to be happy and how they can help with those needs. Be clear with others when asking for help and make sure that you ask for what makes them feel most comfortable.

When you feel like something is not right, it might not be right and it may end up causing more harm than good because you are putting yourself last. When you put the other person first and give them what they want to do instead of what they think they should do, the more likely they will be to help out. Make sure that if you are asking someone to help out with something then it’s important that they will have fun while helping you out too.
By letting others know you are not going to do something that doesn’t make you feel good, they will be more likely to help out. If it’s something they will not enjoy, they may not want to help and that’s fine. In the end, it’s your life and your happiness that should come first, not theirs.

The Takeaway
If there is one thing you take from this article I hope it is that we need to start putting ourselves first and stop trying to control others. Some people have a hard time controlling their emotions and thoughts because they’ve been putting other people first for so long. We need to stop this cycle and start taking care of ourselves first.

By putting the needs of others before our own, we will be happier in the end, but it’s not as simple as that. If you want to start putting yourself first there are some steps you can take on your own which will make it easier to do. Once you feel good about yourself then it’ll start becoming second nature and much easier. The more you put other people first, then the more likely they are going to take care of you or hurt you when they don’t have to. Conversely, only being concerned with your needs and desires will make you happier. You will be able to do things for yourself and enjoy it as well.

The best way to start putting yourself in control is by letting others know what you need. Once they realize how much you need something, they will be more likely to help out. Make sure that you don’t come off as demanding or demanding of them. If someone doesn’t want to help then say thank you for their time and by all means, find someone else who does want to help out with what you need.

It’s important to be assertive when asking others for help and let them know that you need something, but don’t demand anything from them. The more assertive you are about what you feel you need, the better your relationships with others will be. Everyone wants to feel needed and someone who is assertive will make everyone feel appreciated. A happy life is one where you focus on yourself first. Once you start putting yourself first and thinking of yourself as someone who is worthy of being happy, it will be easier to put your own thoughts and needs first.
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